The little decisions and choices we make daily affect our lives. Positive choices and decisions will yield positive results; while negative choices and decisions lead to negative results. There is no middle ground when it comes to choices. Choices can be little as our emotions. How we feel is a choice we make every second whether positive or negative.
When we feel positive; we tend to make positive choices and meet people who feel positive. On the other hand, when we feel negative or when we say: “Oh this is going to be a bad day.” We tend to have a terrible day, anybody we meet makes our day very tough and very difficult to put up with.
When we feel positive about ourselves and feel we are in control of our lives, we feel we can do anything and correct the mistakes we make. On the other hand, if we feel negative and think other things control us other than being in control of our lives, we feel weak and
powerless. We tend to think other people and things determine how we feel and how our
lives turn out to be. For instance, when a person is rude to us; we can decide to ignore them or pay them back by being rude. How a person treats us has got little to do with us but it has got more to do with them and how they feel about themselves.
In schools or work places we find out that bullies are people who have low self‐esteem or are insecure. These people will want others to feel the same so, they try to intimidate or pass sarcastic comments to make others feel bad about themselves so that they can feel good about themselves. Again, people who are confident about themselves inspire or motivate others. How a person treats us has little to do with what we do or do not do to them or for them.
Most of the time, it is how the person feels that manifests itself on the outside through
their word and actions toward us. When we allow people to determine how we feel or react all the time, we tend to live shallow lives. We have to make a decision to be happy and live positively no matter how we are treated or what comes our way. We have to note that people are different; some are kind other are not. Their attitude will not change the value we place on ourselves rather, it is how we see ourselves that matter.
We should learn to accept that, how people treat or do not treat us has got little to do with
us but has got a lot to do with them and live life happy. The more we learn to accept this, the better our lives will be. When we feel positive about ourselves we will see the positive in situations that will help us make positive decisions and give us positive results. These little things we see as insignificant have major effects on our lives. When we are in a good mood, we tend to make positive decisions and have positive results. Again, when we allow these little things affect us negatively, we tend to make bad decisions and get negative results. Our emotions have a tremendous effect on our lives.
By Adwoa Owusuaa