On the night of April 11, 2018, after people deleted their trolls against Real Madrid, a video surfaced online of a Moesha Boudong CNN interview. I didn’t need Baba Fakunle to foretell me that the video would erupt and trend in the morning. This was because of the statements she made in the interview. The actress and model without fear of retrogression generalized that, due to the economy, ladies of her age can’t be independent, and need the assistance of rich men to be able to make ends meet. I quote her words vividly: “It’s like our economy is just such in a way that you just need someone to take care of you. You can’t make enough money as a woman here. Because even when you want to get an apartment, in Ghana, you pay 2 years in advance. And I just started working, where will I get money to pay for an apartment for 2 years?
— Ameyaw Debrah (@ameyaw112) April 12, 2018
Now for those who don’t know, this interview was held on a programme on CNN known as “Sex and Love Around the World.” On this show, the hostess, Christiane Amanpour travels the world covering global affairs, getting personal with women by inquiring about their intimate lives. So it’s not out of track for Moesha, well known for exposing her voluptuous body, to land such an interview.
Social media has been divided into 2 parts. One side bashing her for painting Ghana black, and not giving a true reflection of what goes on here. The other side also calls Ghanaians hypocrites, and testify that it’s the reality she was bold to voice out on an international platform.
Honestly speaking, what Moesha said is not the truth. We all know a lot of ladies who work their asses of to make ends meet, are self-reliant and independent. Those females actually carry a majority of the populace. However, that doesn’t change the fact that a significant percentage of Ghanaian ladies sleep around to make ends meet. I lived in the community of University of Ghana, Legon for 4 years. I saw ladies in sexually-appealing shorts everyday standing beside their sugar daddies’ cars. Others got dropped on campus on Sunday and Monday mornings.
Everyone is busily throwing insults at Moesha for her statement, but none is thinking about how we can empower women to be independently free. If you’ve not experienced it before, or tried putting yourself in their shoes, you may easily condemn the act of sleeping around for money. When in uni, ladies from not-so-rich backgrounds had to keep up on appearances, pay their hostel fees, feed themselves, and have an enjoyable life on campus. After graduating, everyone chases independence, so they want to live alone, and choose their own path. That way, the expenses are high. So they think of it as instead of laying with broke guys who may eventually cheat or break their hearts, why don’t they go in for rich men who can suit their bills.
Inasmuch as this analogy sounds legit, it is wrong. First of all, you have to accept that in this life, you are on your own. If you understand that, you’ll learn to live within your means. If you’re not satisfied, find good ways to make money for yourself. Your sisters abroad are schooling and working at the same time. You can do it, maybe, your problem is that you’ll receive less salary. Remember, half a loaf is better than none. Venture into entrepreneurship. Even if you fail, you’ll learn a lot along the way. Depending on someone for support only makes you lazy. It suggests that the greatest asset you have is your vagina.
Don’t trade your vaginal pride for cedis. The greatest weapon you have is an active and rational mind. If your counterpart females are able to have small startups, draft proposals, work 9 to 5, etc., and make a living off it, what stops you from doing same? Yes, the economy makes it tough, but when life gives you lemons, you squeeze lemonades. It’s better that way than using your vagina for barter trade.
Thanks to Moesha for bringing the discussion up. If I wrote this article last 2 days you may have not read it. What’s fulfilling is a Ghana of powerful and hardworking ladies, who double up as good parents and wives. Let’s get it!