The Path Behind Us

As we travel, the path behind us will look smaller as we move forward; while the path we approach will look clearer and broad. This is how we should learn to forget the bad choices we have made in the past. Human beings are not perfect no matter how hard we try. We make a lot of mistakes which may cost us while others will not.

When we remember the mistakes we have made; it is normal to feel guilty and wish we could go back and correct our wrongs. These mistakes could be the choices we made consciously, but some may be the things we overlooked.  We all go through that time that the biggest mistakes we made play back in our minds repeatedly. Though we will remember the good things we have done; that is our achievements, these are some of the positive things we have done and feel proud of.

On the other hand, when the negative choices we have made in the past play in our minds, we should learn to let go of them. They sometimes ruin our day or week. There are some choices that will affect us till the end of our lives. Instead of regretting and wishing we should not have made those choices; we should learn from what we did wrong and teach others so that they will not make similar mistakes that we made.

As a result of our bad choices, we may lose certain things or some people forever but once we have life, we say there is more to live for. It is good to know what things led to those choices and never repeat them again. If we allow the negative choices we have made in our past to play, they will play the loudest in our minds as we dwell on them. At the end of the day, we may feel powerless making us think life is not worth living.

When we remember these negative choices we made in the past, we should learn to tell ourselves we are not perfect and if we had known that the consequences of our actions would have been negative, we would not have made those choices. Making mistakes is part of life and out of that, we get experience and increase in knowledge so we can guide others. We can also apologise to the people we have hurt or those who have been affected by negative actions and after this, we should leave them in the past where they belong and live our lives.

Keep Going

The life others have lived will not determine how ours will turn out to be. It is true that people do things and fail. The fact that a person did something and could not go through or finish it does not mean the same thing will happen to us if we do a similar thing.

The methods people use will be different from ours. We may have people who will tell us that they tried, or their parents or friends tried and could not do it. What these people will do is put fear in us when they find out that our goals are beyond their imaginations.  The fact that a person did something and failed and gave up does not mean the same thing will happen to us. There are some things we are the only people who are meant to start them.

Also, we are not them, that is, their strengths and weaknesses are not the same as ours. We are all different, so the things they cannot do we can. When we allow people to limit us, it reduces our confidence and belief we have in ourselves. Negative and visionless people will tend to put fear in us by what they see and how they live their lives.

All that we can do is to stay away from them. A lot of people like to sit on the bench and not take any risk. If all the major breakthroughs and inventions had been ignored because of fear; where would we be? Starting something no one or a few people have done is risky and scary. All sorts of things rush into our heads and the negative monster of possible failure will stick its head out.

Nonetheless, we feel powerful and reenergised when the thought of our idea runs in our head, knowing it’ll bring a bright light into our world. That thought and feeling should take away any fear from us. We should learn to spend less time with people who tell us our goals are impossible. As we focus on what we want to accomplish, better people will come our way. These people will push us toward our goals. They will show us ways to accomplish them; because they know how it feels to have a goal and have the desire to pursue it no matter what. They will be our source of inspiration where we can draw our strength from when we feel weak.

During Tough Times…

As humans we go through tough times in life. This is when we think all hope is gone;
people we expect to provide or show some care or compassion toward us may turn
against us. The friends and family members we may turn to for uplifting messages may
not provide what we expect. This is when we might think that our whole world is
collapsing.

Situations like this happen and it is normal to expect some sort of physical or emotional
support from friends or family members. On the other hand, during such difficult times,
our characters are being tested. Our attitudes are shaped and we become stronger and
better during and after such difficult times. When such issues happen, it is easy to focus
on all the negative things or energies that surround such issues.

What we have to do is to look beneath these negative things and look at what that issue is trying to tell or teach us. We do not have to get angry or bitter when people fail to offer help but insult, and ridicule or judge us despite the pain we feel at that moment. We have to bear in mind that; every situation is temporal, we just have to be patient and learn and grow out of that situation.

Sometimes, these situations happen for us to know the real intentions of people who are
very close to us; what is hidden behind their smiles and compliments. Tough times reveal
who they truly are and what they will do when we’re at their mercies.
Again, such issues help us learn valuable lessons like tolerance, forgiveness, patience,
perseverance and others.

In all, issues we see as bad or negative come to teach us lessons in life; valuable lessons that we need to help shape our character or attitude, our thinking
and how well we should live our lives as a whole. Everything in life happens for our good
and as we face tough issues, we get to know what a meaningful life is all about. Mostly, in
those times, we are left alone to reflect and find the hidden things that need discovery.
We should see tough times as the time we are given to open our eyes wide, listen carefully
and close our mouths to get the full understanding of all that is happening around us.

We may not get the message or all the answers to the questions we ask ourselves, as fast as we want. But after sometime; when we give time, time, we will realise that; all the things we saw as tearing us apart or pushing us down or putting us in shame may uplift us; if only we are patient enough to go through the lessons and open our eyes and ears wide,
we will know those lessons.

Sometimes, such lessons gained from those times may help us find ourselves, appreciate
our lives more and even know the purpose of our lives. We may also discover things about
ourselves we did not know existed. All that we have to do is to be patient, watch closely
and listen very well. Everything happens for us.

Words by Adwoa Owusuaa